Beware of the Toxic Nurturer

In all my years of shamanic practice, I have seen countless cases of human relations. There is one that I particularly find very disturbing, I call them the “Toxic Nurturers”. These are people that are usually well off, healthy, good looking and caring. Basically, they have all the deceiving attributes to lure you right into their toxic little inescapable trap.

Here’s how the process can begin. You somehow meet this loving person that suddenly takes a legitimate liking to you. The relationship or friendship moves very fast. Within a matter of days/weeks you find yourself in some commitment, job or living with this person. All along things seem fine and the “toxic nurturer” is constantly loving and giving. The problem is that you are either sinking in deeper emotionally or starting to resent this person. These feelings are originating from a subconscious understanding that in a very subtle manner this person sees you as broken. They have little expectations of your achievements and even anticipate your failures, so you can reinforce their world view. They need you to stay sunk in their set up so they can feel a sense of purpose. From the outside it seems like this person is helping you. From the inside it feels like you are trapped with no hope. They achieve this by constantly feeding you ideas, alternatives and opportunities that you don’t fit in with, basically designed for you to fail in. As an observer, it’s the intense resentment towards the benefactor that starts making me consider this could be going on.

I have had exposure to both sides of this equation. The person under the “toxic nurturer”, just needs to get out of there as soon as possible. It’s energetic, it can’t be seen but the victim is being detoured/delayed of their life destiny. Ironically, I have seen “victims” do very well and very fast after venturing on their own. This will predominantly happen for two energetic reasons:

  • Through their Free-Will, the “Victim” amasses the courage to be sovereign. This will always yield help from their subconscious powers.
  • The “Victim” is actually teaching the “Toxic Nurturer” that their world view is limiting. Helping The Universe bestow blessings and teachings to fellow humans also ignites your subconscious powers.

As for the “Toxic Nurturers”, in over ten years of practice, I have yet to have one stick around long enough to look into their own issues. They usually end up in my practice under the guise of trying to “repair” the relationship with the fleeing victim, or some other person (a current or future victim). It is never about them. These people have a very somber look of the world. They strongly believe in charity service and use it as a way to temporarily get a fix on their inner brokenness.

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Toxic Influences and the Aura Field

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The Universe will is always communicating with us. To me, as a Shaman, it is the animals that provide us with the most direct and comprehensive messages from Source. I always advise my clients and friends to be on the lookout for animals behaving awkwardly or presenting themselves much more often than usual to them. By presenting themselves, it can be in the physical form, dreams, television, books,conversations, etc.

Not long ago a client of mine experienced a very persistent messenger and the ultimate outcome was surprising. She began telling me that  twice that week spiders had descended and dangled at eye level while she was at her desk. Then it had happened again in the morning while she was still in bed. There were a few more situations, so after a little intuition work, I suggested she start eating more raw and organic foods for a bit and stay away from anything fast, processed or intoxicating. Soon after that a strong cold hit her and of course this is one of the ways the body uses to cleanse from toxicity so we felt things were running its appropriate course. A few days passed and she physically looked better and felt clearer, but still the little spiders were showing up. She called me again, when a dead possum appeared in her property. His message in this case was that she still had a little more to go and that a completely new strategy would have to be implemented for a difficult situation. She shared that two days prior to the possum’s appearance she had experienced a very verbally abusive attack from a loved one.

A couple of days later we got together and Journeyed to find answers. The revelations were very surprising to her. The person that had been abusive with her a few days earlier, had an intense inner conflict with herself, at some point in her young life, due to a trauma of her own, she had decided that people will love you for a specific period then hate should also be expressed for harmony to exist in a relationship. This was all on an unconscious level. Later upon further reflection my client shared that this person had done this many times before and would hurt her only when certain conditions were present (among them, only in private and under the guise of helping her), but when it would happen the emotional damage would last for days or weeks. When we walked up to a special mirror in the Journey, we saw all of the energetic hoses that were pumping poison into her field on a constant basis, it wasn’t only when the other person verbally attacked her, because of their bond, this connection was draining her and mirroring a condition being suffered by the other person.

This was apparently a very difficult and complicated energy interlace. My client loved the other person which consciously loved her too, but unconsciously hated her and this very active back end of hate was finding its way into my client through the bond of love that they both shared. Within the Journey, we cut and shaved off all of the hoses that had been pumping toxic matter into her, she also submerged in a magickal spring pool that cleansed her completely, but the question remained how she would deal with this loved one.

The conclusion of this quest was not a happy ending by all appearances, and yet my client says she feels like a huge weight has been lifted off of her, she is in peace, and she says she can breathe in deeper now. She is very happy and claims that other areas of her life are developing faster because  of the Journey’s realization. The sour detail from an outer point of view, that may be difficult to understand is that she is conscious that someone that loves her, also hates her immensely, but this does not create resentment in her, on the contrary it has created compassion. My client witnessed the much bigger self hatred experienced by her loved one, for circumstances that were far beyond her control when she was merely starting her teens. She also saw how deeply hidden these dark spots were within her, they were in an area inaccessible to any outsider trying to help or heal them. This is a sad reality that occurs to many of us, we harbor pains and traumas so deeply and for so long that they become a part of us and we hurt and handicap the ones we should care for the most, including ourselves, and all this without being aware of it. The good news is that if you find yourself in the receiving end of negativity, realizing that this is not your fault or even the fault of the aggressor, but rather a wrong decision taken long ago by an innocent victim, will clear and protect you from further energy intrusions.

This is a little off the subject, but I must share, that the human soul is of magnificent Divine beauty and Light, and yet when I have seen the souls of individuals that harbor dense and heavy vibrations, it can produce nothing but sadness and compassion for those unfortunates. On a lighter note, when these people pass, they immediately remember what they are and the soul breathes again. In the end we are all One and Divine and we all end up in the Light.