One of the most amazing gifts I learned in being initiated as a Shaman, was the ability to become aware of the symbolic thinking we are all already using. This chart was the process I used to come up with the information I will be sharing with you below.

There are times in our lives that certain people will penetrate your social or family sphere. There are all types of people but this type in particular can be particularly challenging, because of their instability. One they might be super caring, the next they are completely ignoring you, only to absolutely open up to you the next time they see you, and on a following occasion they are throwing verbal jabs at you. This behavior goes on and on and on at random and it’s completely unpredictable. It can be frustrating, debilitating, annoying, confusing, etc. How do we deal with this?

The number one step would be to acknowledge the energy (not the person), but the energy of instability that is plaguing the interaction with this person. We separate the energy from the person. We feel compassion and sympathy for the person that is affected. Next, we evaluate the function of this person in our life. We ask questions as: how often do I need to see this person? Who is this person in the grander scope of my life and circle? Overall how reciprocal is this relationship? How much disharmony does this person create? From 0-100% how much balance or the lack of it does this person contribute to when present? The answer to these questions will provide you with accurate metrics to assess three solid decisions: #1. How physically close do I allow this person to get to me? #2. What is the maximum amount of time that I spend exclusively with this person? #3. How much of my attention (consciousness) do I devote to this person? #4, The most important one, when do I re-assess this person so that I adjust #1, #2 and #3.

Shamanism is all about energy. We pay particular attention to the energy around us. We also understand that humans are constantly evolving (and sometimes devolving too). Interacting with energy is a lot like going to a party and dancing. There are all types of songs and all types of dancers, we don’t consider any good or bad and we are absolutely free to have preferences. Choose consciously and create a beautiful life!